Cutting Ties with a Narcissist

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I think I had known for a few years but kept denying to myself because the person was someone very close... or maybe, I just tried so hard not to damage the relationship, shrugged everything off because I don't want to ruin something..  

There had been so many red flags. There were times that I felt confused because this person has a lot of friends, seemed admired by a lot, so I felt that the mistake was on me. At the beginning I though this person was just plain nice to be helping me through a lot of things, maybe that was also one thing that kept me blinded... utang na loob. 

There will be moments and situations that will let you realize your being an empath to such vile person. Sooner or later you will know that you have already been giving too much and everytime you'd say no, that person would react negatively.  Once you have uncovered the mask,  you will learn that the help was given because they wanted you under their spell.

When you realize that you are being a victim, feeding a monster. There are no other solution but to turn your back because if you ignore everything and keep the relationship, it will suck the life out of you. It is never too late. 

However, you have to be aware, because this person will play-victim in public, like you are the bad one.  As if you were the one who did something nasty, yet all you did was cut the tie. 

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